My Story


"You’re far too sensitive, you have to learn to shield yourself more"

"You shouldn’t take everything to heart"

"You really need to develop a thicker skin"

"Don’t get so worked up about it, just let it go" 

When I was growing up I was picked on and bullied a lot in school. I often got told, by my parents and my teachers, that I was too sensitive. They told me: “ Don't take everything so seriously. You need to grow a thicker skin. Don't take everything so personally. You have to learn to let things go.”


In hearing those words I create this story that I am not good enough and that there is something wrong with me, that I am weird or strange. I decided to suppress my sensitivity and to survive through my powers of reasoning to prove that I am a normal person just like everybody else so that I could get their approval and their love. I forced myself to be big and strong and to show a brace face to the outside world and to do what was expected of me. 

When it all fell apart...

I am 32 years old and I am working as a project manager for this IT company. The company is struggling and as a result I am under a lot of pressure to make the project succeed. The customer is difficult, my boss is not giving me the support I need and I am responsible for my team and things are not running smoothly.

At the same time my boyfriend of 7 years ends our relationship totally unexpected. There were no warning signs, we did not even have a fight. One night after watching a movie he just stands up and tells me that he no longer wants to be with me and that I have to move out by the end of the week.


Consequently, I end up in a severe burnout and totally loose contact with myself. It feels like my reasoning and my feelings are no longer in touch and definitely not communicating with each other. Being able to think things through intellectually is no problem at all, but when it comes to my feelings, I just can’t keep up anymore.

O no, what now...?

I suddenly have all these emotions I don't know how to handle. I cannot stop crying and I am so so tired and all I can think is “Why is this happening to me, I work so hard and I am a good person?”

During this time my boss tells me that he thinks I am an HSP, because his wife is one and he recognizes a lot of her in me. 

I did not know what he meant with “HSP” and I thought maybe he was calling me a name, because he was disappointed in me for failing and ending up in that burnout.


I thought “How am I ever going to get out of this burnout. How am I ever going to feel like myself again.” But also “What am I going to do with my life and who am I really?”. 

I recognize so much!

But the term HSP stuck with me and one day I decide to google it. Boy did that open up a whole new world to me, I recognize so much!


Hungry I read every book I can find on High Sensitivity and I become a member of all the fora I can find about high sensitivity too.

I am not weird, I am not strange, there is nothing wrong with me and, most of all: there are other people like me!! It really felt like coming home to myself and the more I read, the more I understand myself and the more insight I get into my own user manual.

I feel whole again

And while reading and learning, the process suddenly takes me back to my childhood and the things people told me. I now understand that they told me those things to help me, because they love me and want the best for me.


They care so much that they want to shield me form the pitfalls of being highly sensitive and they want to make life easier for me.

Little by little, bit by bit I start to allow my sensitivity back into my life.


And, finally, I feel whole again. My head and my heart have found each other again and I realize that it is OK to be me, sensitive weird unique alien and all.

I'm glad I ended up in that burnout 

Looking back I am glad I ended up in that burnout.

It forced me to take a good look at myself. It taught me to stay in touch with my own body more. To pay attention to the messages my body sends me AND to do something with them.

I know now that I can trust my body and my intuition, I know now how to protect myself and my energy and I know now how to feel my boundaries and how to guard them.


From that moment on, I embrace my unique alienness and honor my sensitive side because of the beautiful person they make me and the great things they brings me. I know that you too will appreciate these beautiful aspects of being highly sensitive:  great compassion, deep intuition, authenticity, empathy and the ability to heal.


I now also know how to handle the 'Achilles heel of high sensitivity', such as being discouraged easily, taking things personal, being overwhelmed easily, having a hard time setting boundaries, feeling tired or tense. 

I take charge of my inner self and embrace my uniquness

The moment I take charge of my inner self, I realize that the only reason I have never accomplished what I wanted in life was because I never fully used my gifts and capacities. By not fully embracing my uniqueness and my sensitivity, I am actually sabotaging myself over and over again.

That realization, that was the moment I not only decide to embrace my unique alienness completely, but I also decide to start my own company!  A dream I have for a very long time, but one I keep on postponing.


In hindsight, because I did not have enough confidence in myself. And because it is scary to step outside of your comfort-zone. And because it seems safe to keep working for a boss.


But I do not regret for even a moment having taken that step to start for myself. On the contrary, I am happier now than ever, feeling free now that I finally have my own company.


And this feeling of freedom, this is what I want for you too! 

You are never to old to learn

I won't lie to you. Having your own company is hard. There is a lot to take into account. Especially when you do everything by yourself, like me.

You need to learn a lot of skills. Not just in your area of expertise, but also about how to be a successful entrepreneur, how to do your marketing, do your bookkeeping and so on. 

And we highly sensitive entrepreneurs also need to learn how to protect ourselves and our energy. Especially when we work with other people and are for instance a coach, therapist, teacher etc.


But especially as a sensitive entrepreneur we have and advantage on our non-sensitive colleagues in the same area of expertise. We have an iron clad intuition and we sense things very precisely. These are just a few examples of the advantages that being highly sensitive has to offer. 


Other benefits of having your own company are: the freedom to set your own hours and work whenever you want, the freedom to work with whomever you want, the freedom to work wherever you want, the freedom to take on any project you want, the freedom to fit your company to your unique needs, the freedom to make so much money that you become financially free. The posibilities are endless.


This and much more is what I want to teach you:

  • How to use your gifts, talents & capacities as your business super powers within your company.
  • How to feel like your effortless, authentic self and connect with your passion, your heart's desire and your soul's purpose.
  • How to embrace & overcome your life story so you can love & accept yourself unconditionally for who you truly are.
  • How to feel happy, confident and focussed, with enough energy to be able to do anything you want.
  • Insight into your pitfalls and your strengths, so you know which area's in your life or business you need to pay more attention to 
  • etc. etc. etc.

You are a beautiful person!

There is a new intuitive, ambitious alien in the world today and it's you!

You are on a mission. You have a dream, a vision. You have an amazing gift to share with the world and because of it you can build a hugely successful business where you get paid to share your dream and message with millions.

You're making a massive impact on the world. You can change the lives of millions doing what you love. Have this beautiful lifestyle friendly business. This is for you.


You might be thinking, "Barbera, what are you talking about?"

  • But this is for the Intuitive Empath that wants to connect with their passion and their hearts desire. 
  • This is for the Mission-Driven Soulpreneur who wants to get paid to really make a difference in the world
  • This is for the Highly Sensitive Person who wants to use their sensitivity, intuition, empathy and other gifts and talents as their super power. 
  • It's for the Ambitious Alien that wants to learn how to embrace their unique alienness and connect to their soul's purpose.
  • This is for the Sensitive Leader that's tired of feeling sick and tired, tired of feeling drained at the end of the day and is ready to feel like their effortless, authentic self. 
  • It is for the Expert that's sick of feeling like running a business equals a struggle.
  • This is for you.

I want to offer you a free Clarity session to get clear on what it is that you want most in life, what is holding you back and precisely which steps you need to take to get to where you want to be.


Are you ready to embrace & overcome your life story and learn how to love & accept yourself for who you really are, so you can connect to your passion and lead the life you always dreamed of (but never thought was possible) and get paid to make an impact on the world? 

Working With Barbera

Here are some of the things I can help you with when we start to work together.

Good Foundation

I can help you establish a good foundation for you and your company in a down to earth, no nonsense way so that you can use your gifts, talents & capacities as your strengths, your super powers, both in business and in your personal life.

Energy Management

I can teach you how you can balance your energy throughout the day, so that at the end of the day you do not end up drained on the couch, but still have energy for other (nicer?) things. Daily flow and how to turn your stress into momentum are a part of that

User Manual

I help you to get to know your own unique user manual so that you can make strategic use of your pitfalls and your strengths for more happiness and success in your life and your company. Plus all the tools you need to keep yourself in balance no matter what.

Connect to your true self

I can help you to reconnect with your true self by asking the right questions and getting rid of blocks. This will allow you to regain your balance. When we are connected to our true, authentic self, our energy flows. I will help you to bring out your true potential, so that you can transfrom into the wonderful person that you truly are deep inside.

Align Your Life

I can help you to step into the person that you came here to be in full authenticity. To embrace your weirdness and your uniqueness. When you surrender to how your life has changed, you can align your life to that way of being. I will help you bring all the parts of your life into alignment so that they are congruent with who you truly are can become unstuck.

Find Your Passion

I can help you find your passion, that thing that makes your heart sing, that you can talk about for hours and hours.  I will help you discover what gives you that pure, thrilling sense of liberation — is focusing attention, work, and energy on what you're passionate about. When you persue your passion, that's when true freedom is achieved.

Laser Focus

I also help you to get clear on your BIG dream, connected with your passion and your purpose, so you can formulate goals that help you achieve your dream and to cut them into smaller goals and create a step-by-step action plan to achieve your heart's desire with a structured work method, intuitive planning and laser focus.

Attract The Right Clients

By learning how to embrace your unique aliennness and turning your story into a client magnet, you will attract the right clients to you effortlessly because they connect with your authentic self. This feels good and powerful and allows you to only work with the customers who give you energy while increasing your profits and business results.

Take Your Company to the Next Level

I help you to have conversations based on a deeper connection, without folowing a set script and losing yourself in the process, and to turn your services into a product so that you can take your company to the next level and make is scalable in a way that really suits you and feels almost effortless (and certainly not salesy).

Discover Soul Purpose

I can help you discover your soul purpose, your mission here on earth. When you know your soul’s purpose, you’re content with your life. When your life theme is right for you, you feel a sense of flow, as if you’re headed in the correct direction.  I will help you discover the best way for you to share those gifts, talents and capacities with the world. 

Tying Passion to Purpose

I can help you ty your gifts and talents with your soul purpose. Every individual has gifts and talents that can make a lasting impact. Tying your gifts and talents with your soul purpose not only leads to a more successful career or business, but a significant one. I will help you to utilize those gifts and talents, so you can live up to your full potential

Soul Aligned Business

I can help you turn your calling into your soulful business, so you can create that life for yourself that makes your heart sing. I will give you you the self confidence, strategies and spiritual tools you need to live your soul purpose, create your soulful business, make a positive change doing what you love and earn great money loving what you do.

Results After Working With Barbera

The result is that you have accepted and embraced the things that make you unique so you can live your life to the fullest and be fully connected to yourself, your feelings, your intuition and your other gifts, talents & capacities in the here and now.

You will have discovered your souls purpose so you can turn your calling into your soulful, profitable business and have a lifestyle friendly business that enables you to do what you love and love what you are doing. 

You will have peace of mind and know how to bring focus and structure to your company, so that you can realize your dreams with more energy and pleasure then you could have ever imagined. You will have gained unshakable self-confidence and a newfound passion for life. You will also experience (financial) freedom as well as the freedom to be yourself while feeling empowered and in control.

And to achieve this result, I have developed the unique HSP (Highly Successful Power) method. This method consists of a combination of transforming sessions, ontrack calls and unique tools, with which fantastic results can be achieved in just 3 months of 1 on 1 coaching!

Or you can register for my group coaching program, teaching you how to Live a Life You Love and discover the incredible energy and collective wisdom of being coached in a group that will result in exponential progress and momentum in your business and in your life.

Or you can register for one of my amazing online programs, combining an incredible online learning experience with lot's of tool, tips, new insights and both group and 1 on 1 coaching for optimal results for those ambitious aliens out there that are ready to take their future in their own hands and finally create a life that makes their heart sing.


Here is a selection of the results from my customers:

"As a result of the trajectory with you, I am now much more in contact with myself and therefore the relationship with my family has improved enormously. I feel more relaxed and much more connected to myself and that is so very nice ”


“I now see things in perspective and I feel much more relaxed and happy now. I enjoy the little things in life more and I also have more eye for those little things. ”


“I now have better conversations, because I can now prepare them (energetically) much better and this means that I achieve better results with much less effort. I am now able to disconnect my self-esteem from my performance and that gives me peace of mind. ”


“I can now let go of control over things that cannot be controlled. Also my emotions no longer influence my behavior. This gives me the opportunity to view my company more from a distance so that I can better determine the right actions and no longer get so emotionally involved. "


"Everything is no longer coming in so hard anymore and I am now much better able to separate things and take things so personally anymore."


“I no longer take all responsibility on my own shoulders anymore. I can put things in perspective and let go much better and this brings me peace of mind and the feeling that I am and can finally be myself. ”


“I now think a lot more in logical scenarios and that makes the problem feel less mine. This makes me worry a lot less and that gives me peace of mind. "


“Because I can now choose whether or not to get emotionally involved in certain events, I have become the boss of my emotions and my consciousness. This makes me feel powerful and free. "


I hope I have inspired you to want to know more about what I do and if I can help you. If so, you can 

book a free Clarity Call with me so we can get to know eachother and see if we are a good fit.


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