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6 reasons why sensitivity and strength go hand in hand

Did you ever notice that most of the sensitive people you know are also the strongest?

When it comes to inner strength and resilience, the ability to handle difficult situations and stress and when overcoming obstacles, sensitive people seem to have almost a secret ability to deal with the challenges of life.

Just look at Princess Di, Gandhi, Mother Theresa & Eleanor Roosevelt. They did not only survive hardship, they thrived and they learned from their experiences.

They developed new abilities and they came out stronger than when they went in. They did not get through their difficult times by suppressing their feelings or being stoic. They came through them by being themselves completely and by using their sensitive abilities to the fullest.

How to Appease your Perfectionist as a Highly Sensitive Person

Do you always have to do everything perfectly?

Do you raise the bar high, both personally and professionally?

Do you create long ToDo lists that seem to have no end?

Are you afraid of doing things that really matter to you because you are worried you are going to fail?

Are you quick to worry (for instance about what other people might say or think) and and do you get stress or tension quickly?

Are you very strict with yourself?

Do you often have negative thoughts about yourself or others because you or they are not doing well enough?

Do you feel like you cannot really be yourself?

If you recognize yourself in one or more of the examples above than you might be a perfectionist.

Many Highly Sensitive People (HSP) are also perfectionists. And this is a trait that can be both a blessing and a curse.

HSP & Victimhood: How to stop feeling like a victim

Do you often feel like things are happening to you? Do you often ask yourself why bad things always seem to happen to you even though you are a good person?

Changes are you are stuck in victim consciousness...

When you are in victim consciousness you have the feeling that something outside of yourself is doing something to you. Things keep happening to you and it's not your fault. Something on the outside is controlling your destiny. Life is trying to get you. Or people are out to get you.

Energy Protection Techniques for Energy Sensitives

Have you ever felt drained, exhausted, overwhelmed, overstimulated and/or felt physical pains after having talked to someone or after having been in certain situations?

There are basic techniques a person can learn and practice to protect themselves and their energy from the negativity of others: psychic self-defense.  As an empath or highly sensitive person (also referred to as an energy sensitive), you can deeply sense the energy around you; often taking on the emotions and/or pain of others as if they were your own.

This sensitivity is a result of your central nervous system processing sensory information more intensely and the very different way that energy can affect you emotionally and physically.

Personal Leadership and the Freedom To Be Yourself

Freedom. Who does not want that?

I have never heard someone say: “No, I don't want to be free”. In our own way we all long to be free. But freedom can mean something different to everybody.

For some freedom means: 'Doing what I do, whenever I want to do it'. To someone else it means: 'Being myself and showing my real self to the outside world'. And to others freedom means: 'Being able to express my opinion without landing me in jail'.

In this article I want to talk about what freedom actually is, why it is so important and how you can be free. After reading it, I hope that you will be more conscious about what freedom means to you AND how you can experience more freedom in your life.

Balancing Your Time and Energy as an HSP

Do back-to-back meetings, conferences, and crowded, noisy networking events drain your energy?

How can you maintain your balance if you're a Highly Sensitive Person?

I used to compare myself to others, and wondered why they were one way and I was another, why we seemed so different and what was “wrong” with me. It wasn't until my adult life that I came across the term “highly sensitive” and realized I recognized myself in the description. At first, I tried hard to change who I was, thinking that being an HSP was somehow less desirable than being “normal”, “regular”or whatever other name you give the people that are not highly sensitive. But trying to be something I was not didn’t work for me.

Over the years, I have learned that being an HSP isn’t something I can change (nor do I want to), nor is it “less than” anything. In fact, it’s really not about a label at all.

The Sales SuperPowers of the Highly Sensitive Extravert

Do you think sales is only for the flashy extraverted personality types? Guess again...

Usually when we think of a typical salesperson, we imagine a smooth-talking, outgoing and naturally gifted conversationalist, someone who is not afraid of cold calling prospects or pitching their product or service at network gatherings. And although these salespeople do exist, it is just not true that you need to be like them in order to be successful at sales.

The truth is that you as a Highly Sensitive Extravert naturally have the ability to be just as effective at sales as these salespeople are, in fact you have the power to be even more effective because you are able to make a real heart connection when talking with prospects.

How to Start a Business As A Highly Sensitive Person

Do you sometimes feel like the business world is not designed for Highly Sensitive People?

We often have this image that being an entrepreneur requires a certain amount of charisma if you wants to charm your potential clients, negotiate with partners, and/or lead a team. We also believe that as an entrepreneur you need to network with a new crowd when the opportunity arises because that will help to expand your customer base.

For a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) however, the above mentioned responsibilities of engaging and interacting with diverse groups of people might seem intimidating and overwhelming. This is because the introverted 70% of HSP's prefer solitary and quieter environments where they aren't required to communicate with too many people. Only the Highly Sensitive Extravert likes to engage and interact with a diversity of people as long as the conversations are meaningful and they have plenty of alone time afterwards to recuperate.

High Sensitivity as a Business Super Power

Are you still struggling with your sensitivity within your business, often feeling drained and exhausted and maybe not sure if owning your own business is right for you?

Being a sensitive person can have many advantages in your business. Your clients often appreciate how dedicated you are to them, how generous you are with your time and your help and how personally invested you are in seeing them achieve the results they want to achieve. You are able to anticipate their needs, sometimes even before they do and you can relate to their struggles and are often very good at coming up with solutions to overcome those struggles.

But there is also a downside, because when it comes to the challenges of having your own business like receiving feedback, dealing with 'difficult' customers, invoices that don't get paid, sales conversations with potential clients and putting yourself out there for your clients to connect with you so they can start to trust you and want to become your client, your emotions can run unchecked.

5 Easy Steps to write your Strategy, set your Goals and make your Planning for 2019

Focus and planning are often things we (highly) sensitives are not good at. Setting goals and coming up with a strategy to actually achieve those goals is often even harder. That is why I decided to write this article, telling you how I do it and hopefully inspire you to make a planning you can actually stick to for 2019 so you can make this your best year yet.

So how do you write your strategy, set your goals and make your planning for 2019 ?

What it means to be a Highly Sensitive Extravert

Do you constantly feel like you have one foot on the gas pedal and one foot on the brake? You might be a Highly Sensitive Extravert like me.... read on to find out!

I don't know how it is for you, but for me when I first read about being Highly Sensitive it kinda felt like someone was spying on my life. Yes, I love to be alone! And yes, I hate to make shallow small talk! And yes, spending too much time around other people leaves me feeling drained, irritable, and sometimes even physically unwell!

But there where also aspects of being Highly Sensitive that did not resonate with me at all. I love to go out dancing, clubbing, spending time with my friends and meeting new people. And even though I prefer meaningful conversation, I am actually pretty good at making light chitchat when I have to. I am also not afraid to stand before a crowd and give a speech, a presentation or to lead a workshop or course. In fact I love doing that!

How to increase your EQ as an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)

Emotional intelligence may be something you've heard of, but what is it and why should you care?

In our everyday lives we are constantly displaying our emotional intelligence, usually without even knowing it. We do it when we are communicating with friends, partners, with our kids and of course when we are at work.

But What Is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)? 

Emotional Intelligence consists of a group of personal and social competencies. It describes the ability to handle your own feelings and empathize with the feelings of others to balance yourself well in every circumstance.

7 strategies to boost your self-esteem as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

Maybe you just found out that you are highly sensitive? Or maybe you have know for a while, but just have not done anything with it?

A lot of highly sensitive people struggle with how they feel about themselves. They suffer from low self-esteem and the perceived short comings of themselves and their body. And this low self-esteem can deeply affected their confidence and beliefs about themselves.

Self-esteem is defined as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. As young sensitive children, highly sensitive people or HSP's for short, have often felt different from everyone else. 

5 tips for Highly Sensitive People in Love

Are you a Highly Sensitive Person in Love?
Then chances are your feelings can be quite confusing...

With Valentine's Day around the corner I thought I would write an article for HSP's in love <3

For Highly Sensitive People (also know as HSP's) being in love is something that they would generally rather avoid then enjoy it openly. This is because HSP's are a star in picking up on other people's feelings, emotions, moods and energies as well as being able to pick up all the signals from their surroundings. These signals can come from daily activities like going to work, interaction with co-workers or clients, situations that occur in supermarkets and taking the dog for a walk for instance.

5 tips to increase your self-confidence as a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur

Have you ever felt not sure of yourself, different, like there is something wrong with you?

If you have just started to learn what it means to be “highly sensitive” then you might feel really euphoric (because it feels like coming home to yourself) or completely devastated (because you realize that 80% of the people are not at all like you and you want to be like everybody else) or something in between.

You might even feel that it is pointless to learn everything there is to know about this trait that you inherited.

But that is where you are wrong.

With this article I want to help you to embrace your (high) sensitivity, to start using it as your super power and to create a life that accommodates your (high) sensitivity, in stead of the other way around where it can feel as if your life is being dictated by it.

Five Reasons Why Highly Sensitive People Should Start Their Own Business

Do you prefer quieter, less chaotic environments?

Are you always there for others, but do you tend to forget yourself in the process?

Do you worry about what other people think of you?

Are you easily overwhelmed by emotions and/or energies of others?

Do you like to reflect on things more than other people?

If one or more of these things sound familiar to you, then you are probably a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), just like me.


High sensitivity is not a disease, it is not something you have (or can get rid off), it is who you are. High Sensitivity is an innate trait that is found in almost 20% of the population, equally divided over man and woman. It is even found in the animal kingdom!

4 ways to shift your money mindset

Are you in a love- hate realtionship with money? Do you have money worries? Then read on....

Today, I wanted to talk about a topic that most of us can relate to — especially during the holiday season and that is the hot topic of money...

Between travel, parties, gifts, and extra time with family…it is almost inevitable that money will be a topic that needs to be discussed this December month.

And that is no big surprise. But how you think and feel about money maybe quit different than how the people around you think and feel about money.

Everybody is different of course, but how the people surrounding you think and feel about money has a greater affect on you than you might think.

5 inspiring quotes for when you want to quit being an Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur (HSE)

Let's not sugarcoat the truth.....being a business owner can be hard.

It takes time to get the results you want, they don't happen overnight. And there will be times when you just want to give up. There will be times when money is tight, no new customers are coming and you have doubts about staying in business.

So that's why I want to give you five inspiring quotes to help you get through the hard times when you feel tempted to quit, so that you feel motivated and are heading in the right direction again.

How to handle setbacks in a sensitive way

For HSP's, Highly Sensitive People, Empaths, Intuitives and other people that recognize themselves as sensitive.....

Handling setbacks can be a real challenge for (highly) sensitives. Because we feel emotions so intensely, we are often hit straight into our core when we experience setbacks or failure.

But the best strategy to handle the difficulties in our lives is by embracing our sensitive traits.

Everybody feels shocked, upset, angry or a lot of other emotions when they loose their job, when they end their relationship, when someone you love dies or when we are unable to reach our personal goals.

But we HSP's, we tend to feel things more deeply.

Why Highly Sensitive Men should embrace who they are...

Have you embraced being a Highly Sensitive Man yet?

About 1 in 5 people is highly sensitive, that is about 20% of the worlds population according to Elaine Aaron. High sensitivity is equally divided between men and women. This means that about 20% of all men is highly sensitive or HSP for short.

In our society we seem to prefer the image of a strong dominant man who takes care of his family, works hard, shows no emotions and is mainly career oriented. It is not normal for men to show emotions such as fear and sadness. It is however normal to act as if nothing bothers you.

This makes it very hard for sensitive men to come out and admit that they are sensitive and to show their emotions.

How Highly Sensitive People can avoid a burnout

If you are feeling stretched beyond your limits then you are not alone. The enormous pressure and stress from work are a prescription for burnout for a lot of Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). 

You would think avoiding a burnout is easy to accomplish by making sure you do not get over-exhausted.

But it is not that simple…..

A lot of people in this high paced world would already get a burnout from daily demands even when they are not highly sensitive.

My story..highly sensitive...message from the cave...

This is my story...what is yours?

When I was growing up I often got told, by my parents and my teachers, that I was too sensitive. They told me I shouldn't take everything so seriously and that I needed to grow a thicker skin. They also told me not to take everything so personally and that I had to learn to let things go.

In hearing those words I create this story that I am not good enough and that there is something wrong with me, that I am weird or strange.

I decided to suppress my sensitivity and to survive through my powers of reasoning to prove that I am a normal person just like everybody else so that I could get their approval and their love.

I forced myself to be big and strong and to show a brace face to the outside world and to do what was expected of me.

High Sensitivity finally acknowledged by science

Do you suffer from loud noises, big crowds, other people’s emotions, etc?

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) absorb these issues more than non-HSPs. About 20% of the population is born with this characteristic. Thanks to new scientific research, high sensitivity is becoming increasingly recognized.

Clinical psychological professor Elke van Hoof (Vrije Universiteit Brussel) has shown that highly sensitive people experience the world in a different way than other people, based on scientific research.

She presented the results at the first International Congress for High Sensitivity in Brussels:

"Scans prove it: HSPs are different."
"Our research shows that people with high sensitivity (HSP) experience the world in a different way than people who do not have the characteristics."
'It's a world scoop that a university includes a training in their portfolio AND organises a high sensitivity conference.’

How to thrive as a Highly Sensitive Extrovert

Are you both sensitive and an extrovert?

There are a lot of wrong assumptions about highly sensitive people, for instance, the idea that all HSPs are shy, insecure and introverted. In truth, high sensitivity is not the same thing as being shy, feeling insecure or being an introvert.

Many HSP's may be both sensitive and shy, or sensitive and introverted, but this does not mean all HSP's are or that it's one and the same. Elaine Aron says that about 30 percent of HSPs are extroverts. And this can come with its own set of challenges.

6 challenges that every Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur experiences

Are you facing challenges as a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur? You are not alone!

Highly sensitive people process the world differently than regular people do. They feel things deeply. They have a great need for profound meaning in their life and they get easily overstimulated by too much sensory input.

This causes many of us to start our own business as a way to thrive in a world that values thinking more than it does feeling. Starting your own company gives you the freedom, control and purpose you so desperately crave.

Ode to the Highly Sensitive Man

Are you a sensitive man?

Sensitive men are enormously attractive. They pave the way for the newly developed man. Strong and sensitive. Intuitive and powerful. They can not only give love but are able to receive love as well. Without contradiction, without being “unavailable” and without fear of commitment.

Because I am an empath and a big fan of sensitivity, I want to help empathic men (and women) to cultivate this aspect of them and to feel comfortable with it.
For empathic men it is more difficult to be sensitive than for women, because in our western culture a sensitive man will often be seen as weak or to feminine.

And that is a huge misconception!

The new evolved man is very capable of balancing both the male and the female part of him and thereby embodies his full strength.

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